Updated: May 15
We speak of Love. But what do we really understand about Love?
Tomorrow is a day that many give chocolates and presents but how do we really feel about the people we are giving gifts to? Do we care for them? Do we cherish them? is it an obligation because we are in a relationship and are worried about appearances? Have we honestly stopped to know what a flower means? What Chocolates mean? Do we even care?
Let’s talk about the red rose:
Red is one of the most common and popular rose colors. The red rose is a symbol of beauty, passion, desire, and romantic love. The red rose was originally associated with Aphrodite, the Greek goddess of love. Myth -holds that when her lover, Adonis, was wounded, she pricked her foot on the thorns of a white rose in her haste to run to him. Her blood stained the roses red, turning the red rose into a symbol of incredible passion and romantic devotion.
Chocolate is love, passion, care, and friendship gift. Chocolate contains substances or alkaloids of cacao like theobromine and phenylethylamine that will stimulate our chemical brain. Both substances will trigger our brain to produce dopamine that arousing relaxation, comfort, and joy feeling. Lover loves the chocolate gifts. Eating chocolate from someone you like gives you the feeling and perception that it has a passion and taste that may allow you to feel associated with; the way you are when you are falling in love.
Now let’s be honest, how many of you giving flowers have a passion, desire, and romantic love for the one you are gifting? If these feelings are not within you, you should take a day like tomorrow and rekindle these feelings toward your loved one.
A dozen red roses boldly declare, “I love you,” while a single red rose communicates devotion and loyalty.
How many of us are loyal? And have an exclusive devotion to the one that we are with? These are the important questions that should be considered a day like today going into tomorrow. I asked a question to a few people In these past weeks, and it truly saddens me; the responses that I heard and they were all relatively the same. “I don’t feel the same for ….but we are married, so it’s whatever” “I don’t care anymore. I make sure I come home and ask if anything is needed” “Chatting with an opposite sex is ok; it’s not like I’m having sex.” The one I heard the most “I have a lover because I can’t get divorced and I love them both,” “We are ok, I’m just hoping for change,” and last but not least, “I’m content as long as we don’t talk.”
I can honestly go on and on about all the quotes I have heard of writing this blog. I was in a way saddened and appalled at the same time. I respect everyone’s choices, but we are extraordinary human beings with the capability to do great things.
Let’s take time for ourselves and evaluate our lives, loved ones, and remember that every second we have is a second that does not come back. Let me ask you? How many of us have taken ourselves out and treated ourselves to a dinner? Just because we value who and how we are, we have decided to do something nice for ourselves?
Well, I did that today, and let me tell you, I felt great. I also had the privilege to look around me and notice how many couples were sitting at various tables, but everyone was on their phones and hardly any talking. I will say… I’m not an expert in love or relationships, but I will say that communication is the key to any relationship. When I mean relationship, I’m referring to friends, loved ones, children, sisters, brothers, elders’ acquaintances, etc.
Today was a day that I learned once again that in life, you have to earn and take responsibility for what you do and accept that many people are not in the same place you are at and that we all need to be empathetic to other people’s feelings and that we should be cautious when we speak because words are mighty and can damage even the people that are close to us by not taking into account that we are human beings and that we all have areas that we need growth.
Make February 14 a day to reconnect with yourself and others, to be true and honest to your feelings, to ask for forgiveness, but also forgive and forget. Make this day a day to start a new beginning no matter what circumstances you are confronting. Remember that you are number one, and if you don’t take care of yourself, you cannot care for others. We need to heal and forgive, and as I have said before, forgiveness is not for others; it is for yourself.
Give yourself a gift. Whatever that gift might be, I decided to give myself a seminar from Margarita Pasos based on emotional intelligence and stress, anxiety, and positive self-talk; I also gifted myself dinner and peaceful life. What have you gifted yourself?