Pain

Updated: Aug 25

This view caught my eye while I was driving, and I had to stop and take a picture of it. The funny thing is that I had no idea what my day was going to end up as, just like this picture, sometimes it’s within the oddest experiences that we learn a valid lesson; So here goes the story:


Today I will be as short as I can, and the only reason why I will share this experience with you is solely so you can believe that everything happens for a reason, even though at the moment we might not understand it.


I have suffered from kidney issues for 48 long years, and throughout this time, the Doctors would ask me what surgery did I have when I was five years old. All I ever said was what my mother had always told me “a valve that was damaging a kidney,” but the Doctors would look at me as if I was crazy because that is not a medical condition.


So for 48 years of my life, Doctors just kept guessing, and at times, my situation would get better, and other times, it would worsen. But, I was finally able to contact my biological mother, and very subtle, I started asking her questions and connecting the dots until finally, I learned today that I was born with VUR Vesicoureteral reflux Children who have grade 4 and 5 reflux may require surgery. During the procedure, the surgeon will create a flap-valve apparatus for the ureter that will allow the urine to flow into the kidney. In more severe cases, the scarred kidney and ureter may need to be surgically removed. This is what happened to me, and it took me 48 years to find this out.


The funny thing is that for 48 years of my life, I said many things about my constant hospitalizations. Still, deep in my heart, I knew that one day I would find out and work on getting better, and here I am today, celebrating by myself and sharing with you the fact that I found out what I was born with. I had to call my best friend Maria and my sister Mita, and after talking to them, I shared with them that although I have endured all these years of pain, I have no animosity against the why’s or who didn’t inform me about this before. I’m ecstatic to know that today I can finally understand my body and make sure that I care for it to the best of my ability so it can accompany me for a few more years.


If I could wait 48 years to find out about a medical condition, I believe that we can learn to have the resilience to never give up on our dreams and goals in life. Don’t let anyone tell you that you are not worthy, that you are a liar when you share a personal feeling, and I conclude with my favorite quote, “don’t do to others as you would not like it to be done to you.” If you shed tears today, know that God never leaves us or forsakes us.


No matter what you believe in, if you reap good sooner or later, that will come back to you somehow; you have to be patient and wait. All will come in due time.


Don’t quit, don’t give up, and be happy for every sunset that you are able to see because many have lost their sight, be happy for every person you can touch because many have no hands to hug, be happy for waking up and walking because many have no legs, for everything you have, that makes you; you be thankful because remember YOU are one of a kind and that makes you unique, special and that one person should be loved by you.

Mitzy Coreano



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