Updated: Jan 15
Suggests Michelle Rozen, PhD, author of 2 Second Decisions: The Secret Formula for Leading Change by Making Quick Winning Choices.
"Every time you receive a genuine compliment, you trigger the same area in the brain that we receive when we receive cash," says Rozen. "It's the rewards system, and it's like getting $100 dollars.
With so much stress, mental exhaustion today, we can create real change when we realize the power of compliments."
Giving compliments shows care and compassion for others and can be motivating. Once you communicate their good deeds to them, they will repeat that behavior to feel that pleasure that you triggered in the reward system in the brain.
Rozen suggests creating an intentional compliment habit, ending your day by asking yourself how many genuine compliments you've given. Ideally that number should be five. "If I can't count the number of compliments I've given on one hand, I need to go out tomorrow and do better."
Compliments are more important than ever. "I think any crisis is always a reshuffling of the cards," says Rozen. "This is an opportunity to reevaluate our priorities these days. What are the things that are most important to us? And what kind of world do we live in? Giving compliments is a win-win because I feel better by focusing on the positive and make another person feel good about themselves."
I don't normally start my blogs with such a long quote, but I think it was necessary, why? because I've noticed that sometimes we don't realize when and how we accidentally hurt others.
We say things like:
You are not good,
You'll never make it
You're crazy if you think this will work
He or she is no good,
You have no structure
You do not know what are you doing,
You will never learn
The life you live is the reason you're lonely
No one will understand what you do and why you are doing it
These things are the voices that stay in your head when they tell you these things day after day. These are words that even come from relatives, and those are the statements that hurt the most. I know we all have moments when we say things we shouldn't. We even sometimes yell and hurt others without meaning to, but if we can make sure to say something nice to someone several times a day, it would change a lot of actions.
I'm not perfect and I work on myself every day and I think I'm harder on myself than anyone else. All I can do with this post is to open my heart and help you with my experience for all readers. I pray and hope that my blogs can help someone to change their life and be a better person, in the same way that I work every day to change and leave a mark on this world called life.